90/10 Principle

Discover the 90/10 Principle.

It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you.

90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.

We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.
A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How?

By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light.

However, you can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let us use an example:

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?


A. Did the coffee cause it?
B. Did your daughter cause it?
C. Did the policeman cause it?
D. Did you cause it?



The answer is “D”.


You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minute s early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why?

Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.

The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
* Do you lose your temper?
* Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall Off)
* Do you curse?
* Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
* Do yo u try to bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?

Why let the cars ruin your drive. Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.

Why are stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.

We all must understand and apply the 9 0/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!

Always Bon Jovi Cats in the Cradle

Got to post this entry and lock it in before July commences. June is a good month for me and this was taken by my Sony Ericsson K850i on 27 June 2008.

Location: IndoChine, Wisma Atria
Band: Cats in the Cradle.

Rich DiGirolamo

"

The easiest success measurement tool is a simple question. What did you do
today to move forward? The easiest project plan on earth is also a simple
question. What will you do tomorrow to move forward? At the end of each day,
document your success and design your next move.

" Rich DiGirolamo

Lancy and Chelsea from Sim's COzy Guesthouse

Children are the ultimatum, the pure innocence brings everyone closer. I miss them. We totally enjoyed our stay there, will be planning a trip to go to Tibet once the unrest is resolved.

I still WANT to go to Tibet.

Sign off,
Marco

P.S. The video was taken after the 512 sichuan earthquake. The kids did not know a thing but still there warned us about the minor quakes coming up when we played with them.

cheer chan 陳綺貞 - 旅行的意義 meaning of traveling

Love this song. Will be my theme song for a few days. Love her style of singing.

The World Today

Today, many countries in the world are plagued with natural disasters. People are seemingly helpless. But it seems like people around the world, all around the world, are flooding natural disaster-struck places with love. Donations and aid come pouring in. The government sector for almost every country are helping themselves out and humanitarian groups are striving to help out in these place.

If you think you are living in comfort, think again.

Our world rates wealth over courage and comfort over commitment. We think that nothing will ever disturb our loves. We are surprised when people get sick and die. We think that technology can fix everything. We take our safety for granted. We have more degrees but less sense. We have more medicine but less wellness. We've added years to life, not life to years. We build everything bigger, but not necesssarily better. We have more convenience but less time. We have more communication but less understanding. We make heroes out of actors but have no idea who the real heroes are.